True Friendship
Would you rather have hundreds of “friends” who know you, but don’t really know you—who call you a friend, but only when it’s convenient? Or, would you rather have one true friend who always sticks by your side?
The writer of Proverbs, typically attributed to King Solomon, said this:
“There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.”
Proverbs 18:24 NLT
Some friends come into our lives because of proximity: you work at the same business, your kids go to the same school, or you frequent the same places. But just because you know someone’s name and follow each other on social media, doesn’t mean you’re true friends.
When it comes to genuine friendship, quality over quantity is key.
Even the truest of friends will occasionally let you down, because no one is perfect—except Jesus. He is the truest friend of all.
Learning from Jesus’ example, there are certain characteristics that describe a true and godly friend …
Do they love God? A true friend is one who will ultimately point you back to your Creator and Savior. Who will wrestle through your questions and doubts with you, without judgment or condemnation. Who will speak the truth in love, even when it’s hard. Who will seek to glorify God and honor you as their friend.
Are they willing to work through the hard stuff? Most people are happy to be friends when things are easy, positive, and thriving, but not as many stick around when life gets tough. When you’re sick, when you’re discouraged, when you’ve been misunderstood, or when one of you needs to be lovingly corrected, you need more than just a fair-weather friend.
Are they willing to look beyond themselves? In John 15:13 Jesus said, “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” Jesus modeled this by giving His life for ours. They might not have to sacrifice their physical life, but are they willing to serve the people they love? Are they willing to put God first, others second, and themselves third?
All these questions are great guidelines when looking for solid friendships. But before you look for a friend with these characteristics, first make sure you look in the mirror. If you want to have these friendships, then you need to be the kind of friend who lives out these characteristics with integrity and grace. Be the true friend you desire.
Justified by Faith
Paul, the writer of the letter to the church in Rome, covers the details of what is known as “the Gospel message”—a message that was handed down to them. It's packed with deep theological truths that are meant to shape the way Christians live.
One of the central components to the Gospel is that salvation comes through faith alone. That means we are saved by the power of God through believing and trusting in Jesus. Every Christian comes to God through faith—not through good deeds or by trying to earn salvation.
Paul says that we have peace with God by our faith in Jesus. Prior to that, we were considered ungodly and unrighteous—because we would live our lives in our own power, doing our own things. This led to separation from God.
However, by faith in Jesus, we are justified before Him. This means that through Jesus’ own right-living, we are made right before Him. Even though we still make mistakes, we can stand innocent before God because of Jesus.
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